Well, well, well, looks like you're interested in the topic of spanking! Whether it's for disciplinary reasons, for role play in the bedroom, or just for the fun of it, spanking can be a fun and exciting addition to any relationship. But before you start smacking away, you should know a few things to make sure you're doing it safely and consensually.
First things first, let's talk about consent.
Consent is Key
Consent is absolutely crucial when it comes to spanking. Just like with any other sexual activity, both parties must be fully on board and excited about the idea before any spanking occurs. Make sure to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about their boundaries, and always, always, always respect their decision if they're not into it.
One way to make sure that everything is consensual is to establish a safe word before you start spanking. A safe word is a word or phrase that either partner can use to stop the activity if they're no longer comfortable or if the intensity is too much.
Different Types of Spanking:
- Over-the-Knee (OTK): This is probably the most classic and recognizable type of spanking. The spanker sits down, and the spankee lies across their lap. This position allows for considerable control and accuracy from the spanker, making it a great option for beginners.
- Standing: This type of spanking is exactly what it sounds like – the spankee stands up, and the spanker delivers the spanks while also standing. This position can be more intense because the spankee can't brace themselves as easily.
- Bent Over: This type of spanking is similar to the standing position, but the spankee is bent over at the waist. This position can also be more intense because the spankee can't brace themselves as easily.
- Lying Down: The spankee lies down on a bed or other surface, and the spanker delivers the spanks. This position can be a bit more intimate, but it can also be less intense because the spankee can brace themselves more easily.
Different Types of Implements:
- Hands: The most basic implement, your hands are always readily available and can deliver a wide range of sensations. You can also control your hands easily, so it’s an excellent choice for beginners who don’t yet know how to control other implements.
- Paddle: Paddles come in all shapes and sizes and can be made from various materials. They can deliver a sharper, more intense sensation than hands, but they can also be more forgiving because they distribute the impact over a larger area.
- Whip: Whips can deliver a very intense sensation but require a lot of skill and practice. You should only use whips if you’re extremely comfortable with flogging because gauging the pressure and pain can be difficult.
- Crop: Similar to a whip, a crop can deliver a very intense sensation, but it's a bit shorter and easier to control. If you’re just starting to experiment with implements, crops can be the bridge between paddles and whips. You can think of them as trainer whips!
Spanking in Roleplay
Spanking can also be a fun and exciting addition to roleplay scenarios. Whether it's a teacher and student, boss and secretary, or even a prison guard and prisoner, the power dynamic of the roleplay can add an extra level of excitement. When incorporating spanking into roleplay, it's important to establish clear boundaries. It's also important to remember that roleplay is just that, play. It's not real and should never be used as an excuse to hurt or mistreat someone.
Spanking in Discipline
In a BDSM context, spanking can be used as a form of discipline for a submissive partner. It's important to remember that discipline should never be used as a form of abuse and should always be done safely and consensually. You must establish clear rules and consequences beforehand so both parties know exactly what to expect and there are no surprises. You must also have a safe word in place.
Please remember that spanking should never be used as a punishment for serious issues like infidelity or dishonesty. These issues should be addressed through open and honest communication, not physical punishment.
How to Spank Properly:
- Warm-up: Like any other physical activity, it's important to warm up before you start spanking. Start with a few light taps or slaps to get the blood flowing and to gauge your partner's reaction, and then slowly increase the intensity.
- Use different parts of your hand: When spanking with your hand, be sure to use different parts of your hand to deliver the spanks. Using the same spot over and over again can cause pain and discomfort. Changing your hand position also changes the sensation, which makes the entire spanking experience more interesting and fun!
- Alternate sides: When using a paddle, whip, or crop, alternate sides to avoid creating uneven marks or bruises. You should also pace yourself, allow the spankee to cool down, and then deliver the next spank. Allow the spankee to set the pace.
- Pay attention to your partner's reactions: Remember that everyone's pain tolerance is different, and what may be a light spank for one person could be extremely painful for another. Pay attention to your partner's reactions and adjust accordingly.
- Don't overdo it: There's a fine line between a fun spanking session and causing injury. Be aware of your partner's limits, and don't push them too far.
Spanking Safety Tips
- Never spank over the kidneys or on the spine
- Never spank someone who is pregnant
- Never spank someone who is under the influence of drugs or alcohol
- Never spank someone who has a medical condition that would make spanking dangerous
- Never spank someone who has not given their consent
As you can see, spanking can be a fun and exciting addition to any relationship as long as it's done safely and consensually. Establish clear boundaries, communicate openly, and consider your partner's reactions. Spanking should be fun, consensual, and safe. Always respect your partner's limits and never push them too far. Happy spanking!