Welcome to the post-WAP world—come on in, ‘cuz the water’s fine. If you’re one of the 5.5 million people (and counting) who watched the WAP music video by Megan Thee Stallion and Cardi B, you probably have the tune stuck in your head. And maybe you have a few questions.
If you’ve seen some of the confused and angry reactions to the WAP music video, you probably have a lot more questions. What causes a vagina to ‘get wet’, and is there such a thing as being ‘too wet’?
Grab a pair of pool floaties, because we’re going to do a deep dive into vaginal lubrication!
What Does it Mean to ‘Get Wet’, and Why Does it Happen?
Even if you’re not having partnered sex yet, you may have experienced ‘getting wet’. Our bodies, while all a bit different, go through the same general sexual response cycle—desire, arousal, plateau, and orgasm. When you become sexually aroused from fantasizing about someone, watching a sex scene or making out, your body starts taking steps to get you ready for sex, whether you’re about to have it or not. This involves an elevated heart rate and a rush of blood to our genitals. If you have a vulva, both it and your clitoris will get a little stiffer and puffier. Your vagina will start to expand and start producing slippery lubrication.
Our bodies, while all a bit different, go through the same general sexual response cycle—desire, arousal, plateau, and orgasm.
Your body creates this lubrication because it thinks that a penis is about to enter your body to make a baby. Lubrication helps make insertion easier and more comfortable, and the right blend of cervical mucus and vaginal fluid help with sperm mobility.
Of course, being wet doesn’t mean you need to have sex, or have sex with a penis. It’s just something our body thinks it has to do. You can use that lubrication for stimulating your G-spot, or to help stimulate your clitoris more comfortably with an external vibrator like Obii.
Can You Get Too Wet?
It can seem like your body is producing a lot of fluid, particularly if you’ve been aroused for a long time. But, the ‘mop and bucket’ referenced in the song is an exaggeration. When it comes to how much lubrication is produced, there are quite a few different factors, which we’ll discuss below. But if you feel like it’s making a mess while you’re not indulging in an orgasm, you can try a panty liner. If you’re having sex or masturbating but find wetness is an issue for your sheets, just grab a towel to lie on before you get started!
What if You Don’t Feel Like You Get Wet at All?
When it comes to how much lubrication is produced, there are quite a few different factors. You might find that you respond to dancing with someone to sexy music more than a steamy sex scene. Or that your arousal while masturbating isn’t quite the same as with a partner.
Those are some of the mental aspects of arousal that make us all unique. In terms of physiology, your age or hormone levels may affect your lubrication levels. Some medications, such as certain hormonal contraceptives or SSRIs can make it very difficult to get wet.
But some people will always need a little extra assistance when it comes to comfortable sexual contact.
It’s important to talk to your doctor if you feel like you’re experiencing vaginal dryness, especially if it’s a sudden change. It may be a question of simply drinking more water! But some people will always need a little extra assistance when it comes to comfortable sexual contact. Taking the time to engage in kissing and caressing all your erogenous zones, and making sure you’re not nervous or stressed will go a long way to making sure your body knows that it needs to get ready for sexual activity.
If you still find you can’t get wet enough for comfortable sex or masturbation, then lube is your best friend. A pH-balanced, water-based lube is perfect for body and your sex toys! Never tried one before and want to know how it feels like? Check out our latest article about how a clitoral stimulator could add to your sex life. So, just lightly apply the lube to your vulva and clitoris, turn on Obii’s vibration function, and start to gently massage yourself. You may find you can jump-start your own lubrication this way, or you can add more as needed. Either way, remember that your comfort and enjoyment is the only measure that matters when it comes to your WAP!
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