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Never Used a Sex Toy? Here’s What a Vibrator Actually Feels Like

You have a problem. Your masturbation has been lacking a little oomph. Maybe you’ve been able to get yourself close to orgasm, but never seem to cross the finish line. Or maybe the orgasms that come quickly and easily while solo are no-shows when you’re with a partner, despite both your best efforts.

But rather than get discouraged, you have an idea— maybe a sex toy might help! But, you’ve never used one before and a well-made, body safe pleasure product isn’t cheap. How can you know what a sex toy feels like before you buy it?

Vibrators have been helping a lot of people have a lot of orgasms, for a long time!

Pleasure is something of our speciality, our raison d’être, if you will. And we believe you will, because vibrators have been helping a lot of people have a lot of orgasms, for a long time! We’ll explain the difference between clitoral vibrators and suction sex toys so you can make a more informed decision about your first sex toy. 

What Is a Sex Toy?

Modern sex toy shops have all sorts of colors, materials and features adorning their shelves. Sex toys come in shapes that vary from shockingly realistic to delightfully abstract. But at their base, they are all aimed at giving you pleasure.

Sex toys have been around in one form another since humankind has been able to form simple tools. The advent of power-assisted pleasure saw clitoral vibrators as early as the late 1800s. So, the idea of a device that rubs against your erogenous zones to cause orgasm is nothing new. But it will still be new to everyone once—no need to feel embarrassed if you’ve never used a sex toy before!

We’ve made a lot of strides, technologically speaking, so there is a sex toy designed for nearly every part of the body.

If you’re ready to take the first big step towards motor-powered masturbation, you’re probably wondering what a sex toy actually feels like. We’ve made a lot of strides, technologically speaking, so there is a sex toy designed for nearly every part of the body. If you have a vulva, most sex toys made for your body can be broadly categorized as being for internal or external use. (We’re not saying no one has ever tried putting an external use toy inside themselves, but let’s focus on the recommended uses.)

For many, external stimulation of the clitoris is one of the easiest ways to reliably have an orgasm. It’s not a magic button to press exactly—though, it can feel like that when you touch it just right. However it is a good place to start, which is why clitoral vibrators are a great first vibrator.

A Vibration Fixation

Vibrators are delightfully simple machines. Modern clitoral vibrators can come with charging ports that plug right into your laptop, or corded for plugging straight into your wall. But it doesn’t take more than two AA batteries to get most of them buzzing. All you need is enough power to get a small motor within to start shaking back and forth—that’s it, really! Whether you find it better to hold a clitoral vibrator still against your clitoris, move it in circles, or lie on top of it, this type of sex toy is happy to oblige.

We often use the words ‘buzzy’ or ‘rumbly’ to describe the vibrations of a sex toy. Buzzy vibrations feel like they’re mostly at the surface of the sex toy, and it’s almost as though you can hear them more than feel them. Rumbly vibrations feel like they’re coming from deep within the toy and really move. If you peruse sex toy blogs, most say they prefer toys with deep, rumbly vibrations, however it is all a matter of personal preference. Cheaper clitoral vibrators tend to be buzzy, so it is less expensive to try a buzzy one first to see if you like it—just don’t give us on vibrators entirely if you don’t love it, because maybe rumbly is better for you.

There is a myth that if you put a vibrator on the tip of your nose and sneeze, that means it will give you an orgasm. We’re not sure where this myth came from, but we recommend trying in-store testers on your hand. And, of course, covering your sneezes!

Sensational Suction

A much newer style of clitoral sex toy is the suction toy, though this is a bit of a misnomer. Unlike a typical vibrator, it uses a flexible ‘mouth’ which makes gentle back and forth motion. It resembles a mouth sucking, but it's not quite as terrifying as that might sound.

 

Clitoral suction sex toys like Obii don’t suck continuously like a vacuum. In fact, it’s not recommended that you try to create a seal with the rim of the “mouth” of the toy around your clitoris. A suction sex toy can feel quite intense if applied directly to the clitoris. We suggest lightly placing the ‘mouth’ of Obii lightly on the surface of your clitoris. Think about what finger stimulation you prefer. If you enjoy it more when the hood of your clitoris is touched rather the clitoris itself, then apply the same logic using a sex toy.

It shocks people when they discover how quickly they orgasm when using a suction sex toy, and how wet they can get. Every body is different, but don’t say we didn’t warn you!

Can’t Make Up Your Mind?

If your head is spinning with sex toy sensations, don’t worry about deciding! Just choose a clitoral massager that can give you both!

It may seem like a tall order, but Obii is a cute and compact sex toy that brings you the benefit of suction and vibration. It has focused suction at the top, and a body that’s lightweight and oh-so-squishy, so it’s easy to hold.

It may seem like a tall order, but Obii is a cute and compact sex toy that brings you the benefit of suction and vibration.

The body-safe silicone is matte and smooth, making it a serious delight against your skin. That’s why we made it vibrate as well! Explore the ridges against your body and take your time discovering the delight that is the versatile Obii.

Biird Obii Best Clit Sucker 

More Than a Feeling

As much as we love to wax profound about sex toys, you can’t truly know what a sex toy feels like until you try it for yourself. It might feel like a lot of things! You might feel overwhelmed as you look at all your choices. You might feel a little silly making a spreadsheet of the best ones (we can’t be the only people who do that, right?) and you’ll feel impatient when you wait for your order to arrive. You might feel a little nervous the first time you try your sex toy, but we’re sure you’ll feel satisfied soon!

 

About Author
Ellie Cooper
Ellie is a freelance writer and pleasure enthusiast. She is very comfortable talking about vaginas, scaling mountains and eating spicy food, but not parallel parking. She lives with a very tubby cat named Charles who likes to get involved with the writing process by sleeping on her keyboard.
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