If you’re into kinkier sex, you may have heard of edging. But what is edging, exactly?
In its simplest form, edging is the practice of stopping yourself from orgasm right before you reach the point of no return. To do this, you’ll need to know your body and your level of arousal really well. Once you’ve pushed yourself to the brink, you stop all sexual activity and let your body relax. The idea is that by edging yourself, you’ll eventually be able to prolong your orgasm and make it more intense when you finally do let go.
So why would you want to put yourself through all this? Some people find that the build-up of sexual tension can be extremely erotic. By edging yourself, you’re prolonging that erotic feeling and making it even more intense when you finally allow yourself to orgasm. Others find that edging can help them overcome issues with premature ejaculation. By learning to control their orgasm, they’re eventually able to last longer during sex.
If you’re interested in giving edging a try, the most important thing is to have fun and be patient. It might take a few attempts to get the hang of it, but it’s definitely worth the effort!
How is edging done?
Edging can be done alone or with a partner. If you’re doing it with a partner, communication is key. You’ll need to be able to tell them when you’re getting close so they can help you stop in time. Trust is also important, as you’ll be putting a lot of faith in your partner not to let you go over the edge!
If you’re doing it alone, you’ll need to be extra vigilant. Many people find it helpful to use a mirror to keep an eye on their progress. You can also use a vibrator or sex toy to help you get to the brink, then back off again. The key is to experiment and find what works for you. Experimenting with your body can also improve your self-esteem and confidence in general.
The four stages of arousal:
- Excitement: The excited stage is when you first begin to feel aroused. Your heart rate and breathing quicken, and you may feel flushed. This is the stage where you feel the most arousal, and you may feel the desire to touch yourself or your partner.
- Plateau: The plateau stage is when you continue to feel aroused, but the intensity begins to plateau. Your heart rate and breathing may remain elevated, and you may feel more sensitive to touch. This is the stage where you’re at the height of sexual activity.
- Orgasm: The orgasm stage is when you reach the peak of arousal and experience an orgasm. Your heart rate and breathing will be at their highest, and you will feel a release of tension. This is the most intense stage of arousal.
- Resolution: The resolution stage is when you begin to come down from the orgasm, and your arousal levels begin to decrease. Your heart rate and breathing will return to normal, and you may feel fatigued. This is the ideal stage for aftercare and cuddles with your partner.
You must understand the four stages of arousal for successful edging. The only way to edge yourself successfully is to understand how your body feels and reacts at the various stages of arousal. Your goal is to stop just before you reach the third stage of arousal, i.e., the orgasm. But controlling yourself at that stage needs discipline. You need to experiment with yourself and masturbate regularly to recognize the signs and start edging successfully.
What are the best edging techniques?
#1. Stop-Start Method
If you’re new to edging, the stop-start method is a great place to start. This technique is all about learning how to control your arousal and delaying orgasm. To do this, you’ll need to bring yourself to the point of orgasm, then stop and wait for your arousal to decrease before starting again. The stop-start method is a great way to learn how your body responds to stimulation.
To get started, find a comfortable place to masturbate where you won’t be interrupted. You can use your hands, a sex toy, or anything else that feels good. Start by stimulating your clitoris. When you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, stop and take a break. Wait for your arousal to go down before starting again. Repeat this process as many times as you like.
#2. Squeeze Method
To do the squeeze method, you will need to start by stimulating your penis until you are just about to ejaculate. When you feel the urge to ejaculate, quickly stop all stimulation and squeeze the head of your penis tightly with your thumb and forefinger. Hold this squeeze for about 10-15 seconds, or maybe even more. After you have released the squeeze, you can resume stimulation. Repeat this process as many times as you like.
#3. Ballooning Method
The ballooning method is a great way to edge yourself during solo play. This method is all about building up sexual tension and allowing yourself to get as close to the point of orgasm as possible without actually climaxing. To do this, you will need to use some form of stimulation on your penis. This can be done with your hand, a sex toy, or even just by using some form of pressure on your penis.
Start by touching a sensitive part of your penis. Gently move your fingers around the sensitive region until you become hard. Once you’re completely erect, you can continue stroking the sensitive region until you’re about to ejaculate. Once you’re at the precipice, you can stop touching your penis completely and allow it to soften. Once it has softened a little, you can start the process again.
You can perform edging during solo masturbation, sex with a partner, or with a vibrator. If you use sex toys for edging, we recommend Biird’s Namii, a dual-function vibrator that can induce deep stimulation through vibration or suction on your penis. You can move the vibrator against the base of your penis or use it for vaginal and clitoral stimulation. Namii is an excellent tool to help you gain better control over your orgasms and experience the most intense orgasms ever.