The vagina is a pretty nifty part of the body. It certainly serves numerous purposes, not least of which is offering amazing orgasms and sexual stimulation. But it also has the property of self-lubrication and self-cleaning. When aroused, your body instantly produces lubrication to ease the passage into the vaginal canal and help you achieve powerful orgasms. Your vagina can also produce fluids to clean itself and regulate the optimal pH balance, so you don’t need external soaps and cleaners.
Lubrication occurs when the Bartholin and Skenes glands in your vagina secrete fluids to smoothen passage into the vaginal canal, which happens when you’re mentally prepared for sex, i.e., turned on. Lubrication also occurs because sexual arousal increases blood flow in the genitals, producing a watery fluid along the vaginal walls. As such, numerous physiological and psychological processes come together to produce lubrication. But sometimes, your vagina may not function the way you want.
If your vagina doesn’t self-lubricate, sexual experiences and even masturbation can be pretty uncomfortable. Vaginal dryness can occur because of emotional stress, anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and/or physiological issues, such as menopause, medications, and hormonal changes. But even if you’re struggling with self-lubrication, all hope isn’t lost. You can take numerous measures to catalyze self-lubrication or use external forms of lubrication. This article offers a definitive guide on how to achieve lubrication.
Get in the right frame of mind
If you want to truly get wet, you need to relax, de-stress, and avoid putting pressure on yourself. Sex is not a test, and there is no right or wrong way to do it. Your body knows what to do, so let it do its thing. If you're tense, your muscles will be tight, which may lead to vaginal dryness and make sex painful. And if you're in pain, you're definitely not going to be enjoying yourself.
Some people suffer from vaginal dryness because of stress. Sex can be stressful because we put so much pressure on ourselves to perform. We're worried about how we look, how we sound, and whether or not we're doing it right. But the truth is, there is no right or wrong way to have sex. As long as both parties enjoy themselves, that's all that matters.
If you're not worried about whether or not you're doing it right, you're much more likely to relax. And when you relax, your body is more likely to cooperate, increase blood flow to the genitals, and provide the lubrication you need to engage in a pleasurable sexual experience, whether you’re going solo, with a partner, or with multiple partners!
Use a water-based lubricant
When it comes to getting wet, there's only one surefire way to do it: use a water-based lubricant. This lube is designed to mimic the body's natural lubrication, making it the ideal choice for anyone who wants to get wet without any fuss. And there’s no shame in resorting to external lubrication. Even if you don’t struggle with vaginal dryness, you can still use lubricants to enhance pleasure or enjoy anal sex!
Here are a few tips for using water-based lubricants:
- Start with a small amount. A little goes a long way with water-based lubricants, so you don't need to use a lot to get the desired effect.
- Apply it directly to the area you want to lubricate. Whether it's your vagina or anus, water-based lubricants can be applied directly to the skin.
- Reapply as needed. Unlike other types of lubricants, water-based lubricants will eventually dry up. That’s why it's important to reapply as needed, especially for long sessions.
- Choose a quality product. Not all water-based lubricants are created equal. You should ideally use high-quality water-based lubricants to ensure optimal comfort.
Striptease, kissing, and lots of foreplay
You must take your time to build up the sensation and sexual tension. Rushing into sex is a recipe for disaster. If you're not feeling it, chances are your body isn't either. Take your time and explore each other's bodies and erogenous zones. Kissing, stroking, and licking are all great ways to arouse each other. The more turned on you are, the easier it will be to get wet.
You can also add foreplay to get things steamy. Perhaps you can put on a striptease for your partner, which can be sexually stimulating for them and empowering for you. Or perhaps you can engage in some of your kinks and fetishes, such as foot fetishism or voyeurism, provided you have your partner’s explicit consent. Foreplay can make things more exciting and put you in the right frame of mind for lubrication.
You can even use sex toys to induce lubrication. Clitoral stimulators and suckers, such as Namii, are particularly good at helping women get wet because they stimulate the entire clitoral structure without active penetration, thus inducing lubrication and powerful orgasms.
Eat foods that enhance sensuality
Did you know that you could be eating your way to a better sex life? It’s true! Certain foods can increase libido, enhance sensuality, and help you get wet quickly. Here are some of the best foods to eat for a wetter, better sex life:
- Oysters: These slimy little sea creatures are loaded with zinc, which is essential for healthy sex life. Zinc helps to produce testosterone, which is the hormone responsible for libido in both men and women.
- Chocolate: Chocolate contains a chemical called phenethylamine, which produces feelings of pleasure. It also contains tryptophan, a precursor to serotonin – the “happy hormone”.
- Strawberries: These juicy red berries are not only sexy-looking but also contain high levels of vitamin C. This essential vitamin helps to keep your reproductive system healthy, making it easier for you to get aroused and reach orgasm.
- Watermelon: This summer fruit is not only 92% water, making it great for keeping you hydrated during sex, but it also contains citrulline. This amino acid helps to relax blood vessels and improve circulation, both of which are essential for lubrication.
Getting (and staying) wet is an important part of sexual activity. It makes things more comfortable and enjoyable, can reduce the risk of pain or discomfort, and make the entire process smoother and more pleasurable. If you're not as wet as you'd like, you can do a few things to increase lubrication. Stay hydrated, use a quality lubricant, take your time, and go easy on yourself. Soon, you'll be wetter than you ever thought possible!