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The Ultimate Female Masturbation Guide

If you’re reading this article, you’re probably looking for the best female masturbation tips to induce powerful orgasms. Sex and masturbation are some of the best ways to alleviate stress, improve sleep, and enhance your relationship with your body. Masturbation provides numerous benefits, including uplifting your mood, reducing depression, helping you discover your sexual interests and desires, and releasing accumulated sexual tension.

You must explore your body on your own terms. No two people are alike, so what works for someone else might not work for you. But while we can’t offer a step-by-step manual on how to masturbate, we can guide you in the right direction. This article provides a comprehensive guide to female masturbation — we help you better understand your anatomy and provide tips to prepare for masturbation.

Please Note: When referring to “female,” we refer to individuals with vulvas, including those who identify as men or nonbinary. Whether you’re a man, woman, or nonbinary individual, you can rely on this guide if you have a vulva.

Understanding the Female Anatomy

Self-pleasure and masturbation are all about discovering your body. You need to better understand your body, develop an intimate relationship with yourself, and then explore your desires. Unfortunately, the woeful state of sex education throughout the country leaves most people uninformed about their physical bodies and desires, which can lead to considerable confusion about the genitalia. Below, we help you better understand the female anatomy.

Vagina

The vagina is a cavity of muscles that extend from the vulva to the cervix. This is where the lining of the uterus is shed during menstruation, where babies descend during childbirth, and where penetration often occurs. When discussing penetrative sex, most people refer to the vagina as the point of entry.

G-Spot

The g-spot (grafenberg spot) is a small spot located along the front wall of the vagina, usually towards the abdomen. The specific location of the g-spot differs from one individual to the other. While some women say g-spot stimulation is intensely satisfying and powerful, others say the g-spot is a myth and doesn’t lead to any pleasure.

Clitoris

The clitoris is the primary seat of pleasure in the female body. This is an extremely small pea-sized gland that can induce extremely powerful and full-bodied orgasms when properly triggered. The clitoris contains 8000 nerve endings, so it can be incredibly sensitive. The clitoris only serves one function — delivering sexual pleasure.

Vulva

The vulva is the entire organ that encapsulates the clitoris, g-spot, labia lips, and the vaginal entrance. The outer parts of the clitoris and the clitoral hood are also parts of the vulva. As such, the vulva is an overarching term that refers to all the female genitalia in the region, including the clitoris, labia, and vagina.

Anus

The anus is the opening of the rectum outside the body, also known as the a-hole. While the anus is primarily identified as a source of waste expulsion, it can also be incredibly erotic because it contains a high volume of nerve endings. Anal stimulation might not be for everyone, but it can also be incredibly pleasurable and satisfying.

Erogenous Zones

Erogenous zones are various points of pleasure located across the body. Different parts of your body might be sensitive to sexual arousal, so they can be included in your erotic sessions. Stimulating the erogenous zones can help some females orgasm more powerfully. Some of the most common erogenous zones include the ears, lips, neck, abdomen, buttocks, and thighs.

Getting Ready for Masturbation

Now that you understand the complexity of the female orgasm, you can also understand that female masturbation is fairly complex. You can masturbate through various organs, including the clitoris, vagina, anus, and a combination of all, while stimulating the erogenous zones for even greater sensations. In the next sections of this article, we’ll discuss the various types of female masturbation, including clitoral, vaginal, anal, and combo masturbation. But first, let’s get ready for masturbation.

Understand that orgasms aren’t essential

When it comes to masturbation, theres a clear gender gap in orgasms. Studies have shown that males orgasm more frequently and consistently than females. Instead of forcing yourself to break that pattern and orgasm, its important to realize that orgasms arent necessary for explosive erotic experiences. Enjoy the sensation of exploring your body — an orgasm can be a surprise gift if it comes, but it shouldnt become an end in itself.

Create a relaxing or erotic mood

The setting can make an incredible difference in the quality of masturbation, especially when youre riding solo. You can turn down the lights, make yourself comfortable, light some scented candles, play some relaxing music, and perhaps run a hot bath. You should also engage in masturbation when you have the time to relax. To truly enjoy your body, you need to be present to its sensations, which can only happen in a relaxing environment.

Enhance your fantasies with books, music, and visuals

Instead of jumping right into masturbation, you can also prepare your mind with books, music, and visuals. If you like books, you can read some erotic stories to enhance your fantasies and sexual desires in a safe and fun way. You can also watch porn to increase your libido, alleviate stress, and allow you to explore your sexual kinks in a fun manner. Alternately, you can also listen to steamy audiobooks… whatever works for you.

Keep a tube of lubricant to enhance the pleasure

The female body has a pretty exceptional means of self-lubricating upon arousal, making sex a smooth and pleasurable experience. But some females struggle with self-lubrication, and some cant lubricate without external stimulus. Its always a good idea to keep a good, water-based lubricant close at hand, so you can smoothen your experience when necessary. Using a lubricant during masturbation can enhance your experience.

Let your sexual fantasies and desires loose

Everyone has unique sexual fantasies and desires. Some of your sexual fantasies might also be taboo. But as long as you’re engaging in your sexual desires safely, there’s nothing wrong with engaging in them, especially in your mind. Let your mind wander, think about your sexual fantasies and desires, and explore your body. Your mind should never be a prison — let your thoughts free and explore your fantasies without fear or shame.

Play with your erogenous zones

The human body has numerous erogenous zones, such as the neck, lips, underarms, thighs, ankles, feet, and more. During your masturbation session, run your hands around your entire body and focus on the sensations that arise. If you feel a tingle in your body, focus on the body part you’re exploring. Everyone has different erogenous zones, so you must find which body parts are the most responsive to your sexual touch and pleasure.

Explore your body with sex toys and clit suckers

You can explore numerous female sex toys, such as vibrators, dildos, clit suckers, and more. Depending on your specific needs, you can play around with your sex toys, see how they feel against different parts of your body, and explore your sensations. If you don’t have a sex toy, you can also use your showerhead against the clitoris or vulva, which can lead to powerfully erotic sensations and orgasms.

Clitoral Masturbation

The clitoris is the pearl-sized organ covered by a hood at the top of the vulva, the region where the inner labia lips meet. The clitoral gland itself is only pea-sized, but the entire clitoral structure is deeper and more complex. Since the clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings, it’s one of the most sensitive parts of the body, and it can also deliver the most powerful sensations. Most females can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

Below, we describe the most effective techniques for clitoral stimulation.

Solo tribbing with your fingers and palm

Tribbing is a form of vulva-to-vulva stimulation, also known as scissoring. Tribbing is usually done with another female partner, but you can also recreate the sensations using your fingers and palm. During masturbation, you can lie on your side with your legs spread apart, following which you can rub your fingers and open palm against the vulva and clitoris in a side-to-side motion. Your hands should be lubricated during this movement.

Give your clitoris the peace sign

Also known as the scissor’s sisters technique, you can stimulate your clitoris by creating the peace sign with your fingers. Hold your fingers in a V position and apply pressure to the regions around the clitoris. Start with gentle pressure and mild circular movements, and gradually increase the pressure and motion. You can soon start wiggling the clitoris, which may lead to powerful clitoral stimulation and sensations.

Focus on the soft clitoral hood

The clitoral hood is the soft mound of flesh above the clitoris. You can apply a little pressure to the clitoral hood with your fingers, thumb, or the heel of your palm. You can try different motions and movements to see what works, such as rubbing side-to-side, using circular motions, or even rubbing back-and-forth. Try switching up the movements and techniques until you feel a deep sense of pleasure.

Tap on or around the sensitive areas

While stimulating your clitoris, tap on or around the clitoral nub and hood with your fingers. You can use multiple fingers to gently tap different areas of the clitoris and clitoral hub, which will wake up the nerve endings in the area. If you’re on the precipice of an orgasm, you can even use the tapping technique to cool things down and extend the sensation. If you want to heighten the sensation, combine tapping with diagonal and circular movements. Note that if you're feeling a bit insensitive in your clit area, you might be suffering from clitoral atrophy.

Use clitoral suction toys to induce deep stimulation

If you want to stimulate the entire clitoral structure and not just the visible clitoral tip, you can use clit suckers. Namii is an excellent clitoral suction stimulation and vibrator that generates a suction force to stimulate the clitoris, making the entire clitoral structure vibrate deep within. Some say that clitoral suction with Namii feels like good oral sex, and some say its unlike anything theyve experienced. A clitoral sucker can help you achieve the most powerful clitoral orgasms.

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Vaginal Masturbation

The vagina is the canal-like entrance that extends from the vulva to the cervix — this is where penetration usually occurs. Most females have a hard time orgasming through vaginal penetration, but stimulating the vagina can still be thrilling. If you want to heighten the experience, you can also try stimulating the g-spot, which is usually located along the front wall of the vagina. You can penetrate your vagina with your fingers, dildos, or other sex toys.

Below, we describe the most effective techniques for vaginal stimulation.

Use the peace sign to massage the labia lips 

Gently move both your fingers around the labia lips and the vaginal canal. Make a v-sign with your fingers to stroke both sides of the vaginal canal, all while changing your motions. You can squeeze, rub, tap, or stroke the regions in and around the vaginal canal until you feel a powerful sensation. The more you explore your vagina, the more you’ll discover your sexual desires.

Explore the g-spot with your fingers or a sex toy

The g-spot is a highly contested area within the female body. Some say it doesn’t exist at all, and some say it’s found on the front vaginal wall, usually towards the abdomen. The g-spot is described as having a rough texture, and it’s supposed to be walnut-sized. Use a crooked finger to rub the front wall of the vagina towards the abdomen until you find the g-spot, which can help you achieve powerful sensations.

Explore the skene’s glands within the vagina

The skene’s glands are small duct-like organs located along the front wall of the vagina, and they’re responsible for vaginal lubrication during arousal. You can explore and stimulate the skenes glands to make them produce even more lubrication, which is often associated with ejaculation. You can apply gentle pressure on the engorged glands and make them ejaculate, which can be incredibly satisfying.

Locate the mysterious a-spot within the vagina

In addition to the g-spot, females are also rumored to be born with the elusive a-spot, a small spot located deep within the vagina. If the g-spot is located 2 inches within the vagina, the a-spot is said to be located 4 inches within the vagina. If you want to stimulate the a-spot, you’ll need a powerful vibrator or dildo, which you can push outward toward the front of your body.

Penetrate the vagina with your fingers or sex toys

If you want to trigger your vagina’s deepest sexual potential, you may need to combine your fingers with sex toys. You can start with gentle penetrations with one or two of your fingers, following which you can introduce a lubricated dildo. You can only go so far with your fingers, but a dildo can explore all the deepest areas of your vagina, helping you explore all possible points of pleasure.

Anal Masturbation

The anus is the outward projection of the rectum, also known as the a-hole. Stimulating the anus can be incredibly pleasurable because it contains a high concentration of nerve endings, which can make the sensations powerful. But you can also stimulate the g-spot through the wall shared between the vagina and the anus, leading to even more powerful sensations. Anal masturbation can be done using dildos, vibrators, and even fingers.

Below, we describe the most effective techniques for anal stimulation.

Start by rubbing the outsides of the anus

If you’ve never explored your anus, you need to start gradually. Start by applying gentle pressure on the regions outside the anus with a highly-lubricated finger. Tease the outside of the anus and focus on its pulsations. You might feel a deep sense of pleasure because the anus contains a high concentration of nerve endings. Don’t enter the anus until you are completely comfortable.

Use lots and lots of lubrication

The vagina contains the skenes glands, which can produce lubrication during arousal. But the anus doesnt have any self-lubrication mechanisms, so you have to lubricate it externally. Use a water-based lubricant on your anus and fingers, which will minimize friction during penetration and stimulation. Dont be stingy with the lube — your entire finger should be dripping wet. If the lube dries out during stimulation, quickly add more lube.

Enter your anus a few centimeters at a time

If your anus isn’t used to hosting foreign objects, you should enter the canal slowly. After lubricating your finger or sex toy, insert one finger a few centimeters at a time. You should also slow down and pause every couple of seconds, giving your anal muscles time to relax. You might feel a strange combination of pain and pleasure, which is normal. But if you experience considerable pain, it might be time to go slow or pull away.

Train your anus with butt plus and anal beads

When attempting anal stimulation, you may experience resistance because of your contracted sphincter muscles. Like all muscles, you need to train your anal muscles to receive your fingers or sex toys. You can insert butt plugs or anal beads in graduated sizes to train your anus. Keep the butt plugs and anal beads inside for a few minutes before pulling them out, and then try inserting your fingers or sex toys.

Insert a specialized vibrator or dildo

If you’re comfortable with fingers, butt plugs, and anal beads, you can graduate to vibrators and dildos. Gently insert a well-lubricated dildo or vibrator into the anus, again a few centimeters at a time. You can slide the sex toy in and out, allowing it to stimulate your nerve endings, which can lead to deep stimulation. If you experience any friction, please stop and apply more lubrication. The sensation should be smooth and frictionless.

Combo Masturbation

People often say they experience the most powerful orgasms when they combine vaginal, clitoral, and even anal stimulation. If you want to enhance the sensations even further, you can also stimulate your erogenous zones using your hands or sex toys. The human body is complex, and you have a lot of different strokes, methods, and areas to explore — the more you discover, the better your sensations.

Below, we describe the most effective techniques for combo stimulation.

Use parallel or opposite sensations

When playing with your clitoris and vagina simultaneously, you can alternate the rhythms — use parallel or opposite sensations and movements. You can also change the speed of the penetration for both regions. Changing the degree of penetration, sensation, motion, and speed will differentiate the two regions, helping you achieve more distinct and powerful sensations.

Play around with all of your erogenous zones

Combo masturbation is all about trying different combinations and permutations of erogenous and sexual zones. In addition to stimulating your clitoris, vagina, or anus, you can also play with your nipples, feet, neck, thighs, or other regions. You can also try different sensations, such as biting, tugging, pinching, features, vibrations, and more, until you find a sensation that works.

We have offered numerous tips for different types of female masturbation, but your body is your own, and your desires are your own. You should ultimately listen to nothing other than your body. Focus on your body and its desires, follow its commands and dont shy away from doing whatever makes you feel good. Masturbation is all about self-discovery, so go nuts with your exploration.

About Author
Ellie Cooper
Ellie is a freelance writer and pleasure enthusiast. She is very comfortable talking about vaginas, scaling mountains and eating spicy food, but not parallel parking. She lives with a very tubby cat named Charles who likes to get involved with the writing process by sleeping on her keyboard.
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